Dream Analysis submission from Scott…
I've been having many interesting dreams lately. Interesting because of the subjects as well as because I'm able to remember them in the morning, which hasn't previously been the case. The latest dream involves a good friend of mine proposing marriage to me! We are both in our 40s. I was married once, briefly. She has never married. We have been great friends for the past 4 years. I have been interested in her romantically from the start. She says she doesn't want to date me because she prefers to date someone of a different race. Last night I dreamt that she asked me to marry her! In the dream the marriage was to happen in a few weeks. I accepted but felt troubled by it as the date got closer and confused because we hadn't even kissed! I then woke up. Any thoughts? Scott
Dreams of being married, or even an impending marriage are quiet common. Typically they symbolize a synthesis of two aspects of one's own personality. The key to understanding a dream like this is to write down all of those qualities which you admire about the person in the dreams. More often than not, they will represent certain qualities of character which lay in potential in your own self. That is, what you see in her may actually reside in yourself. So in the dream is announced that you're to be married. This means you need to prepare, this synthesis is due.
To work on a dream such as this the first challenge is to not take it literally. The person who seems to understand us, or who makes us feel more ourselves, or to be a perfect fit, is the same person we tend to fall in love with. This 'soul-mate', however, is to be found within. Integrating those qualities which are projected (perceived in the other) clears the way for true relationship. So long as one is 'in love' with the other, that person is forced to carry what is unloved, and essentially dead, within oneself. Which is why it often feels so uncomfortable being around someone who thinks the world of you.
I hope that helps. I'd be interested to see how you describe you friend and where your moon and Venus are placed. It may be that you are due to meet your anima, that is, you own inner feminine side.
So I can't say your friend is about to turn around and ask you to marry her. What I can say is there is impending development that is due in yourself. To understand the dream, you first need to determine what she means to you. So write the list, then ask yourself if you too have the ability to express those qualities.